One day Buddha was walking through a village. A very angry and rude young man came up to him and began insulting him. “You have no right to teach others,” he shouted. You are a fraud.” Buddha was not upset by these insults. Instead, he asked the young man “Tell me, if you buy a gift for someone and that person does not take it. To whom does the gift belong?”
The man was surprised to be asked such a strange question and answered, “It would belong to me, because I bought the gift.” The Buddha smiled and said, “That is correct. And it is the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself.”“If you want to stop hurting yourself, you must get rid of your anger and become loving instead. When you hate others, you yourself become unhappy. But when you love others, everyone is happy.”
To get angry one has to burn himself first. To illustrate, if you carry fire in a bowl in your hands, the bowl has to burn itself first to burn your hands.
Learning: If you are right then there is no need to get angry. And if you are wrong, then you don’t have the right to get angry Patience with family is love. Patience with others is respect and patience with self is confidence.